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Dear Future Self

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Writing a letter to someone is easy. I do it all the time and I really enjoy doing it. One time, when I was in Cebu, I wrote  a 14-page letter to Geliebter before he left for Manila to train. Yes! 14-page! Hahahaha. You know what they say, “Handwritten letters will never go out of style.”

But writing a letter to your future self can be difficult. We’ll for me, that is. I tell you, it’s not easy for me. I mean I will not be opening this letter in the next 10 years, I sure want it to be something full of wisdom. Something that I can look forward to reading. Something that will make me say, “Ahh! I’ve improved. And I’m way better that what you’ve expected, 27-year-old Cathie.”

 I hope it was as simple as:

Dear past, 

You were so stupid. Just beyond stupid. I cant even explain how stupid you were. And how bad your decision making skills are. 

Dear future, 

Dont do stupid things. 

To tell you honestly, I’ve been trying to do this for about a year and some months ago. But I just dont know where to start. What do I really want to say to my future self? What should I include in my letter? I even tried looking online to see some tips on how to write a letter to your future self. Silly me, huh?

I have to go back to the challenge that I will be opening this letter in 10 years. I thought to myself, where do I see myself 10 years from now? I’m sure we all have encountered this question during job interviews and I’m sure as hell that we script our answers to please the interview without really 100% sincere of our answers. Yea, I do that. Most of the time. But now as I plan to write this letter, it made me reassess my life. What are my plans? There’s no point in lying since there’s no interview to please, and I’d only be fooling myself. I want to know what do I really desire.

Then I came across with this blog.  It was a big help for me to narrow down the arguing ideas in my mind and helped me identify what my long term goals are. It gave tips about personal goal setting. A step by step post.

Step 1: Setting Lifetime Goals
The first step in setting personal goals is to consider what you want to achieve in your lifetime (or at least, by a significant and distant age in the future). Setting lifetime goals gives you the overall perspective that shapes all other aspects of your decision making.
To give a broad, balanced coverage of all important areas in your life, try to set goals in some of the following categories (or in other categories of your own, where these are important to you):
  • Career – What level do you want to reach in your career, or what do you want to achieve?
  • Financial – How much do you want to earn, by what stage? How is this related to your career goals?
  • Education – Is there any knowledge you want to acquire in particular? What information and skills will you need to have in order to achieve other goals?
  • Family – Do you want to be a parent? If so, how are you going to be a good parent? How do you want to be seen by a partner or by members of your extended family?
  • Artistic – Do you want to achieve any artistic goals?
  • Attitude – Is any part of your mindset holding you back? Is there any part of the way that you behave that upsets you? (If so, set a goal to improve your behavior or find a solution to the problem.)
  • Physical – Are there any athletic goals that you want to achieve, or do you want good health deep into old age? What steps are you going to take to achieve this?
  • Pleasure – How do you want to enjoy yourself? (You should ensure that some of your life is for you!)
  • Public Service – Do you want to make the world a better place? If so, how?

Read more about setting personal goals here.

 

I started drafting what I want based on the bullets on step one around 10 am.  Still a bit uncertain of what I’ve written down. When I completed jotting something about each bullet, I made a table and pictured myself working hard to reach those life dreams. I searched in me if those were what I really wanted. I questioned if my goals fit the SMART criteria. I smiled as I looked at the pages.

10944935_650755441701659_3337666565128304631_nMy 3-page love letter to my future self.

I finished writing it around midnight. No! Dont get me wrong. I didnt write from 10 am to midnight, straight. Of course, I did something in between! LOL! Well I’m so glad that I made it. It gave me a clearer picture of what I really wanted in the future. I may not share the contents of my letter with you, as it was something personal, but I can tell you that I’m definitely going to work hard to reach those life goals. Your prayers for me are greatly appreciated.

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5 more days before January ends and I still have 7 more to go. Well, 5 more to do since I’ve already started doing the cross stitch, and stopped eating fast food since the beginning of the month. I still need to confirm about shooting a gun. Totally need help with that.

For now, I need to doze off. It’s been a long day. Good night dear reader.

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“Someday someone won’t be afraid of how much you love. They won’t stay on the shore; they’ll meet you in the depths.”
— Breanna Sipple

Illustration by Paula Bonet

The purpose of soulmate

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Sometimes the purpose of a soulmate is to tear down your walls, shake you awake and reveal parts of yourself you never knew you had. And then they leave.

Sometimes it’s their job to break your heart open and let you know that your world isn’t as small as you think it is. And then leave.

Sometimes they come into our lives just to introduce us to the demons that we must beat. And then they leave.

AND WE MUST MUSTER UP THE COURAGE TO LET THEM GO BECAUSE THEY WERE NEVER SUPPOSED TO STAY.

Don’t cling to a soulmate who’s served their purpose of opening you up and breaking you free. Whom you love until the end of your days is up to you. The key word here is CHOICE.

 

For my SeaMonster,

I don’t regret meeting you. I never will. I’m happy you were in my life, for you came and showed me what it feels like to be with someone who is a total opposite of the type of guys I used to date. Like ours, not all relationships are meant to last forever. Some people come into our lives to teach us an important and sometimes painful life lesson and then they leave. It’s up to us how we use this experience and what we gain from it. Yes sweetie, you are my life and love lesson. God weaved you into my life for that purpose. And now that your task is done, I have to return you to Him, and move on. Thanks for the bittersweet memories “SeaMonster”. You’ll always be my “that kind of soulmate”.

Blowing you kisses from afar and whispering prayers for all your endeavors.

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Ice Giants Desserts & Snacks

 

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Ice Giants Desserts & Snacks, a chain of quick-service dessert restaurants owned by the Villaceran couple, is originally from Davao City. In Cebu, they have two branches. One is in The Strip in Osmena Boulevard, and the other one is in City Times Square in Subangdaku, Mandaue City. My Geliebter and I went to the latter.

A server, dressed up like sailor, welcomed us with a big smile. The colorful interiors exude a happy aura that will surely charm the young and the young hearts.

It gets more interesting here

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“Right. Left. Left.” will lead you to the best hot wings in town.

It’s no secret that I’m a chicken aficionado. I think that’s already expected since I grew up in Dakbanwa sang Bacolod. I also enjoy spicy food. So after stalking some local bloggers about what’s hot and what’s not in Cebu, I come across an article with words “spicy” and chicken” together in one sentence. You can only imagine how I am over the roof with excitement! It’s like being proposed to by the only local celebrity I fell in love with, my dream boy, Marc Nelson!

 

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Welcome to Gibbs’ Hot Wings!

It is a small restaurant in Holy Family Village II in Banilad. It is a family-run diner that is nestled in the owner’s house extension.  It’s small and cozy with ambiance that makes you feel like you are home.

 

It gets more interesting here

Cebu Diary: A Very Cebu Experience

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I’ve been staying in Cebu for coupe of months now. I’ve tried most of their delicacies, well-known restaurants, and go-to comfort foods that I’ve read online. But there is this one “only in Cebu” dining that I haven’t experienced yet. I’ve always wanted to try since I got here but I got busy. Now is just the perfect time to try.

  It gets more interesting here